« A Sad Day At The Vet | Main | Uwharrie Mountain Run... Not For Me »
Monday
Feb082010

Using the Blog to Make Friends

People sometimes ask me why I blog. I have no good answer. When I started this blog, oh so many years ago, the thought was that I would use it to promote my book, Lessons In Stalking. (See the promotional link? Subtle, yes?) The idea was I would write about my journey of book promotion. However, after the fifth, "I did a book signing. Three people showed up," entry, I decided a new focus was desperately needed. 

I started writing about daily life. Which is the worst possible thing you can do on a blog, according to the experts. It's the "No one cares you ate tuna fish for lunch," rule. Or in my case the, "No one cares you ran yet another mile. Stop the self-congratulating and go shower, already," rule. 

I've thought about quitting the blog but there are several aspects to it I enjoy, not the least that even though it's stream-of-consciousness, unedited writing, it is still writing. Not bad practice. I also enjoy reading comments from family and friends. Which brings me (finally) to the point of this blog entry, which is to say that I love the ability of the blog to create friends.

Last summer when I was training, a guy named Rob found my blog and we e-mailed and chatted about our training plans. Recently, a lovely woman who is also running Boston in April found my blog and we've struck up an e-mail friendship. Since we're using the same training program, we're on the same schedule and can commiserate about upcoming speedwork or how we felt after our last long run. I suddenly have a friend who understands a large portion of my life, and I hers, even though we've never met.

I think that's cool. 

Over the years, I've met many people through this blog. Some I'm still in touch with, others not. But I like the idea that, even briefly, I had the good fortune to connect with someone I otherwise never would have met. 

People ask me if I think blogging is a waste of time. Challenging? Yes. Time consuming? Sometimes. But a waste of time?

Never. 

PrintView Printer Friendly Version

EmailEmail Article to Friend

Reader Comments (5)

Oh I so agree with you. I have "met" some great people through blogging, including a friend who feels almost like a sister to me, we have so much in common. (She even lives in my home town in MN, and I plan on a visit up there one day. Actually, it's because of her blog that I found your blog. Isn't that neat how that happens?) And as a writer, sometimes "forcing" out a blog entry has helped when I get that horrible blocked feeling, like I just can't think of a thing to say.

I honestly didn't think I would take to blogging. Guess I was wrong. It's been a wonderful tool.

February 9, 2010 at 5:02 AM | Unregistered CommenterSusan M. Bell

just for the record, I do care if you ate tuna fish for lunch.

agreed - bloggin adds to my full life both with it's demands for my time and it's contribution to the richness of it.

February 9, 2010 at 7:12 AM | Unregistered CommenterKim

You shouldn't blog about daily life? Well what should you blog about? I do have some theme blogs on my blogroll but my favorite blogs are ones that tell about someone's daily struggles and triumphs. I love your blog and I hope you stick with it!

February 9, 2010 at 8:54 AM | Unregistered CommenterTam

Isn't it funny how having a blog does seem to make the World Wide Web just a little smaller? I've also made friends because of my own.

Meanwhile, I'm with Kim. I absolutely care if you have tuna for lunch. Because you'll entertain me and tell me what happened to your tuna and why it's a good idea for me to cook for you instead of the other way around. Or you make me jealous that you had tuna. Either way, your unique style always comes through in what you write; yours is one of my most regular online haunts.

February 9, 2010 at 9:31 AM | Unregistered CommenterMelody

I don't always read your blog, but when I do I enjoy it. You have a good variety of subjects. I especially enjoy your cat blogs--you make them almost human.

Thanks--keep on blogging.

February 9, 2010 at 1:27 PM | Unregistered CommenterCarol Watson

PostPost a New Comment

Enter your information below to add a new comment.

My response is on my own website »
Author Email (optional):
Author URL (optional):
Post:
 
Some HTML allowed: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <code> <em> <i> <strike> <strong>