It’s Not Worth It

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With age, comes wisdom. Particularly the wisdom to know that time is short and spending our precious minutes and hours on things that don’t fulfill us is, well, a waste of time.

I get it. Beds must be made and laundry must be folded. (Yes, it must. Do not argue with me on this.) Life isn’t all fun. But over the years I’ve gotten better at discerning what’s worth my attention and what isn’t.

For example, a couple of months ago my company changed wellness providers. Our new provider sent us step trackers. If we log a certain number of steps each day, we can earn up to $1000 toward our deductibles and medical costs. Not a bad deal, right?

But not for me.

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I'm Not Busy

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Whenever people ask me how I'm doing, I have a singular, standby answer: "Busy."

This, friends, is a bullshit response.

Let me explain. It's not that I'm not busy. With an active work and social life plus the (admittedly self-inflected) punishing workout schedule I adhere to, it seems there are rarely enough hours in the day. I am, in fact, busy. 

But so what? Who isn't busy? I can't think of one person in my circle of friends and acquaintances who would answer "How are you?" with "Pretty slow, really. Lots of down time to think, read and meditate on life. Yeah, not a lot going on." 

Right? 

So I'm booting "busy" off my list of acceptable responses...

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Dating Diaries: He's Single

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People, I have reached a new low. A friend texted me yesterday. Here's her message, in full:

"I have someone for you to go out with. He's single."

Really? This is the new standard by which I'll date? "He's single?" What happened to smart, funny, cute?" "He's single" is like saying, "Well, he's of the human species. I think. Wait--let me check his Linked In profile."

Awesome. Can't wait to meet. 

How are people describing me to potential dates? "She's a girl." That's it folks, bottom-line it for us single people.

Of course, I can't complain too much. My response? "Yeah, okay, whatever. Set me up."

Cheers,

Dena

Dating Diaries: They Weren’t All Bad – Part II

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My last post about “good” dates was so popular, I’ve dug deep in my memory and unearthed a few more examples of why, sometimes, when the planets align, dating doesn’t totally suck.

[Click here to read the first installment in case you’re the kind of person who freaks out when you read things out of order.]

Good Date #4

I am not one to mark dates. “It’s the 3-month anniversary of our first kiss!” is not a phrase you’ll hear coming out of my mouth. But I was meeting a date for dinner and happened to have looked back at my calendar that day in search of something else, and randomly saw the first night I’d met Good Date #4 for a drink.

So that night at dinner, I mentioned it.

“This is actually our 6-week ‘anniversary,'” I said.

“Shit,” said my date.

“Okay,” I said. “Slightly hurtful and not the reaction I was hoping for, but we’ll roll with it.”

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